yeah you your self have to allow to share your files first, then you become paired. so if he sent you and invite to pair and you agreed then he quite possible was. but he would only be able to view and transfer files like, music pics and videos. not contacts iircc. but people out there have been able to crack phones, thats how paris hiltons adress book was stolen one time. just keep your bluetooth off unless using it, as its uses roughly a 3rd of your battery too.