when i disconnected the alarm i traced the wires and they run through the fuses in the fuse/relay box to the right of the battery, but the alarm has battery back up so i'm not sure if removing fuses will work.
once you remove the wiper assembly and gain access to the alarm box, you need to undo the two 10mm (or 12mm?) bolts either side of the bracket. then you can lift the alarm box out of the bracket and away from the car. the wiring plug is hard to pull out of the alarm box. i just grabbed a handful of wires and pulled and wiggled and it came free.
now, this wire i want you to cut. the only thing it will affect is the alarm setting off the hazard lights. (you can always reconnect it if its not the problem, will be easier then removing the alarm box.) you'll still get the siren, and you'll still get the hazard light flash when you de/activate the central locking. if you want, i'll take a pic tomorrow of the wire i cut so you can see what i did. it's a five second job, compared to a half hour job and a mission to disconnect the alarm plug
but i appreciate its daunting to start cutting wires