Im old, its a side effect of being into cars for over 2 decades, lol
Your logic is wrong mate IME, the spigot isnt designed to carry load, its there to help you locate the wheel when fitting, I know lots of people including myself who have used aftermarket wheels without a spigot ring on stud and nut conversion (so you dont need it to locate the wheels anyway) and none of us has ever observed the sort of out of balance wheel wobble you would get if there was any movement.
thats why the spigot ring in the wheel is ally or plastic, and the tapers for the studs/nuts are steel inserts, cause its them carrying the load.
The plastic isnt particuarly hard, so getting it to compress by a few thou (all it would need to move by in order to feel out of balance) wouldnt be an issue if the studs/bolts clamping the wheel on wasnt sufficient to hold it in place.
If you take them on and off a lot so everything is nice and clean you will normally be able to feel a VERY small amount of play in them which proves its not them locating it as if it were that there would be a small amount of movement and when you next removed the wheel it would look polished on the back where it had been moving slightly and rubbing.
You could look into the clamping force of the wheel bolts, which will be many tonnes, and then find the friction coefficient of ally against steel, and see if any movement is possible, but I can save you a lot of time and tell you that so long as the studs/nuts are properly torque it isnt going to be given the sort of loads your car will see in normal use.