@Mike12 - Thanks very much for posting those! Oddly my relay box is a different style, it's like this:
Fuel pump relay is as you say is 236 and called out on it's own and the starter (my other issue) is 232 and looks to be a miniature relay.
Fuel pump relay coil is fed from fuse F5 which is 15A which also feeds the ECU. The ECU then controls the earth to fire the coil.
The main input comes from Fuse F1 which is 38A?
Output goes to 778 and R67, R107, R2 (not sure what these are?) and 199 which must be the fuel pump?.
The NC contacts on the fuel pump relay arent used which is odd.
The same fuse (F1) also feeds relay 238 which is switched by the ECU and powers 193-196 as well as 371, 242, 887 and 1813 which i guess are the injectors, coil etc? The fusebox allocation describes 238 as "injection locking)
Starter relay 232 must be on a different diagram I think