Just read your story ben, i had a similar thing about 2 months ago where some tw*ts woke my mum and her bloke (ex para) up about 5am sun mornin - they were in the middle of fishing my keys through the letterbox, and dropped them! he rushed out of the house (wearing nto much!) and saw them, but then went back inside to go get some clothes on and a kosh. unfortunately he missed them, but when the police came round they were totally on our side - saying things like "shame you didnt get your hands on him, that wold have taught him a lesson".
About the g/f and family thing, its always a shock when you see another side of someone like that, but they have to understand the ircumstances behind it. i remember about 2 yrs ago, my sister had some mates over and they decided to nick my mums purse which is a pretty low thing to do. anyway, one ofthe theives came back down our road, and my mums bloke went up to him and nutted him to the ground (he wouldnt tell us where hed thrown the purse). Now id not seen this side of him before, neither had anyone else, but to rationalise it you just have to be blunt about it. Hes not violent generally, and the only times ive seen him like this is with bad people, who have done sh*t things to other people - seriously, there is enough sh*t that goes around here, and these people have no respect and values.
and the thing he said about not wanting to do it, his first time, etc..
BULLSH1T
the second someone violates your rights like that they lose all THEIR rights. his mitigating circumstances (excuses) are b****cks, and this coutry is too soft on issues like this - you run the risk of getting whats coming to you as soon as you take the piss.
Hope things go ok for you mate