Good idea to keep the standard ECU IMHO, you maintain OBD2, CAN, DBW Throttle and as a result easy diagnostics for most garages, good cold start etc. etc. Standard ECU is easily capable of running a 200bhp F4R 730.
Viper type things aren't worth bothering with. Standard airbox with an ITG or similar panel filter in it or an ITG AB65 Airbox.
4-2-1 manifold ala 182 will improve midrange torque at the expense of top end power in my experience, as such I'd rule this out and keep your 4-1 172 manifold.
The biggest areas for gains are the inlet manifold (which is rubbish) and the cam profiles. With matched inlets and CAT428's you can see IRO 190bhp, maybe a touch over. Finding 10bhp more than that though with the standard inlet manifold and you'll be struggling.
Ben at AW has a great setup on the way that is being prototyped on my Cup and a Cup race car in the UAE, it maintains the standard DBW throttle butterfly and standard ECU, is a straight bolt on and with 428's will see 100bhp/tonne easily.
The other option is to start dumping bits of interior. I quite like having a road car though rather than a race car on the road. However chucking the rear seats out only takes 5 mins although it doesn't save a great deal of weight.
If you have a Cup then happy days, if not consider junking your air-con and going to a cup alternator setup. That'll save a fair bit of weight and remove the need for a 170 quid belt and tensioner kit everytime you need to change the aux belt.
Cheers
M