Cut your losses now mate. Dont waste your money on modifying cars. This isnt a hate message, This is coming from someone who went down the same route as you, And as a result, 3 years down the line is in a 1.2 Dynamique and not an Evo 9 or an M3.
I was the same as you, couldnt give a f**k about what this forum thought (although my feedback wasnt that bad TBH), Turns out they were all right. Cut your losses and save your money. I imagine your quite young, spend it on beer and slags, I missed doing this cause i was saving to have my petrol cap relocated into my arch, or airbag suspension. All my mates were driving shitters and out every other night and holidaying to the lads places.
Ironically, They have all got better cars than me now.